{"id":954,"date":"2003-02-26T02:28:12","date_gmt":"2003-02-26T18:28:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/2003\/02\/26\/caring-for-your-introvert\/"},"modified":"2019-12-04T14:30:37","modified_gmt":"2019-12-04T22:30:37","slug":"caring-for-your-introvert","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/2003\/02\/26\/caring-for-your-introvert\/","title":{"rendered":"Caring for your Introvert"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='__iawmlf-post-loop-links' style='display:none;' data-iawmlf-post-links='[{&quot;id&quot;:15214,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/www.theatlantic.com\\\/issues\\\/2003\\\/03\\\/rauch.htm&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/web-wp.archive.org\\\/web\\\/20080829135444\\\/http:\\\/\\\/www.theatlantic.com\\\/issues\\\/2003\\\/03\\\/rauch.htm\\\/&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-03-13 16:38:48&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:404},{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-03-29 06:15:49&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:404}],&quot;broken&quot;:false,&quot;last_checked&quot;:{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-03-29 06:15:49&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:404},&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;},{&quot;id&quot;:15215,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/www.kottke.org\\\/03\\\/02\\\/030225caring_for_y.html&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/www.kottke.org\\\/03\\\/02\\\/caring-for-your-introvert&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[],&quot;broken&quot;:false,&quot;last_checked&quot;:null,&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;}]'><\/div>\n<blockquote><p>\n  Are introverts arrogant? Hardly. I suppose this common misconception has to do with our being more intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverts. Also, it is probably due to our lack of small talk, a lack that extroverts often mistake for disdain. We tend to think before talking, whereas extroverts tend to think <em>by<\/em> talking, which is why their meetings never last less than six hours. &#8220;Introverts&#8230;are driven to distraction by the semi-internal dialogue extroverts tend to conduct. Introverts don&#8217;t outwardly complain, instead roll their eyes and silently curse the darkness.&#8221; Just so.<\/p>\n<p>  The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through. Sometimes, as we gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to listen to themselves. Still, we endure stoically, because the etiquette books &#8212; written, no doubt, by extroverts &#8212; regard declining to banter as rude and gaps in conversation as awkward. We can only dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts&#8217; Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say &#8220;I&#8217;m an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush.&#8221;\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>&#8212; from a wonderful article in The Atlantic entitled <a href=\"http:\/\/www.theatlantic.com\/issues\/2003\/03\/rauch.htm\" title=\"Caring for your Introvert\">Caring for your Introvert<\/a> (via <a href=\"http:\/\/www.kottke.org\/03\/02\/030225caring_for_y.html\" title=\"Kottke.org: Caring for your Introvert\">Jason Kottke<\/a>) I&#8217;m almost tempted to keep copies of this article around to hand out to a few people I know.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through. Sometimes, as we gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to listen to themselves. We can only dream that someday&hellip;it will not be impolite to say &#8220;I&#8217;m an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2028],"tags":[13],"class_list":["post-954","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-links","tag-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/954","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=954"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/954\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=954"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=954"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelhans.com\/eclecticism\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=954"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}