Until death (or homophobia) do you part

This entry was published at least two years ago (originally posted on April 14, 2005). Since that time the information may have become outdated or my beliefs may have changed (in general, assume a more open and liberal current viewpoint). A fuller disclaimer is available.

Well, I can’t say I’m surprised, but I’m certainly disappointed that Oregon has nullified the same-sex marriages performed last year. It’s frustrating enough to see it happen from the standpoint of someone’s who’s very much in favor of true equal rights for all — but even more so when this decision affects a friend of mine.

This is only the first day and already I have run into problems. I had an appointment with an attorney this afternoon and the first question asked? Martial status? Single. He looks down at the gold wedding band still (and forever) on my finger. Widower? Nope. Divorced? Nope. He’s trying real hard to pretend he doesn’t see the ring but he does and its giving him fits. Ha-ha he nervously laughs, that ring looks a lot like a wedding band. It IS a wedding band. Now he’s lost so he starts again. Martial status? Still single, I haven’t gotten married in the last five minutes. Finally at a loss he just accepts I’m single and moves on to the next round of questions.

Yesterday it would have been so much easier. Martial status? Married. See how easy that was.

So now what?

iTunesBig Ditch” by DJ Icey from the album Urbal Beats Vol. 1 (1996, 3:49).